SURVIVING PRISON – How to survive prison

SURVIVING PRISON – How to survive prison

 

Nothing can be more difficult for a prison inmate than walking into the penitentiary for the first time. I know, I was once an inmate in a Texas state prison. New prison offenders often experience extreme confusion, fear and anxiety. The cold sound of slamming bars and hollering echoes as correctional officers are escorting you to your cell. As a reformed ex-convict and son of a loving and concerned family who stood by me through out my 13 year sentence, I am inspired to share my knowledge of how to survive prison. I know there are thousands of mothers, fathers, brothers and sisters who are in desperate need of advice because they have a loved-one currently doing time in prison. You may consider printing out this article and mailing it to your incarcerated loved-one so that he or she is able to survive prison as I did.

ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY

Prison is what you make of it. It can serve as a beneficial learning experience or it can be a living hell. That’s right; every inmate who walks into prison has a choice. An inmate can survive prison by simply following prison administration rules and respecting both officers and fellow prisoners. What every prison offender needs to understand is that you committed a crime. You offended another human being so in the eyes of society you are an offender and will be referred to as such by prison staff and officers. Nobody likes to be referred to as an “offender” but there’s absolutely nothing you can do or say to change that fact, unless of coarse you are released from prison. Inmates who get angry of the way officers treat them need to realize that prison is designed to punish criminals, not pamper them. Ask yourself this question. If the life of your own brother was robbed by the hands of a killer, would you want correctional officers to baby the offender? Inmates who are blind to that reality and who expect royal treatment behind bars are either cold-blooded sociopaths or just too stupid to live. Not only do offenders like these (and there are many) make life harder on themselves by refusing to follow the direct orders of officers, but they make life a living hell for their loved-ones who worry about them. Inmates who whine, cry and complain over their situation are not ready to be released back into society. Society can not afford the risk of releasing back into the streets an adolescence-minded adult-criminal who may very well offend again. Prison officials have a place specifically for all problem offenders. Unruly offenders are housed in special maximum security pods reserved for dangerous high risk inmates. It is there where officers become the least of a stubborn inmates problems and it is there where one must now deal with dangerous adult gang members with rascal mentalities. So yes, you do have a choice!

TELL ME WHO YOUR FRIENDS ARE AND I’LL TELL YOU WHO YOU ARE

New inmates often feel the need to fit in. They seek friendship from just about anyone in prison. Choose your friends wisely. The least, the better. Mature minded convicts who mind their own business and follow administration rules are probably a new inmates best bet. Hang around convicts who keep out of trouble, who have productive hobbies or who go to religious services. Stay independent. You were born with two legs, not four or eight so theres no need to help fight your friends battles. A good friend is solid-minded enough to fight his or her own fight so if you come across an instigator who asks you to assist them in their conflict, avoid them.

IT’S ALL ABOUT RESPECT

Sometimes conflicts are inevitable, after all you are housed in an environment of convicted criminals of every kind. If you come across a situation where an other offender is giving you a hard time, try talking to him or her. Be respectful. There is absolutely nothing you need to prove so don’t feed into their hostility. You are not a coward for avoiding a fight. You are in fact brave if you are able to approach the offender alone. Yes, make sure the offender is alone and calmly and respectfully explain to him or her that you have nothing against them and that you would like to apologize for anything that may have offended them. Trouble-making convicts are often egotistical so that may neutralize his or her aggression towards you. It is rare that this respectful tactic will not work. If it does not work and the offender persists, calmly walk away and avoid any eye contact with him or her. Ignore any insults and resist the urge to respond. It takes more will-power to resist a fight than it does to actually throw a punch. Walk away knowing that you are strong. You will one day be a free person after you serve your time.

HEAR NO EVIL, SEE NO EVIL AND SPEAK NO EVIL
Most, if not all prison fights start over gossip. Prison is boring so many offenders find that gossip is the next best thing to do. Avoid these offenders and their friends. Refraining from gossip may just save your life.

A STRONG BODY EQUALS A STRONG MIND

Exercise will not only keep your mind healthy, but it will make your body strong. Penitentiary bully’s like to pick on the weak. You have nothing but time so release your inner frustrations with a lot of exercise. Avoid being a couch potato and avoid junk food. Eat the beans and greens on your food tray. Feed your mind, body and soul.

KNOWLEDGE IS POWER
Read, read and read. Reading informative newspapers, magazines and books will empower your mind. Not only will it take your mind out of prison but it will make your brain stronger. A strong brain knows how to deal with tough situations. A strong mind can see further and the further you see, the easier it is to avoid problems in prison. A well read mind knows that one day YOU will be free just like me, a man who did 13 years in prison. So let the gossiping prison gangsters and offender bully’s keep the penetentiary they so desperatly want to control. They can have it! You will be free one day and no longer will you be referred to as an “offender”. Life will be good. Trust me.

Chris Corey

CMO Markethive Inc.

 

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7 Ways To Accelerate Your Success As An Entrepreneur

 

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There are two types of entrepreneurs. And knowing which one you are is critical to your development. There is the entrepreneur that just works hard. Someone who puts in unthinkable hours, is completely confident in their business, creates detailed plans – but at the end of the day, never seems to have much to show for it.

And then there is the entrepreneur who works smart. They put in as many hours as is required, only plan as much as needed, are confident but not delusional, are open to new ideas, and constantly look to the advice of people more experienced than them.

If you’re an entrepreneur and you’re reading blogs like this one, I’m sure you want to know how you can make sure you are the latter. The problem most of us have though, is not knowing exactly what to do to accelerate our success. If we’re going to be working hard we want to know we’re also working smart.

So the question is, what can you focus on to make sure you’re working smart, and making leaps and bounds in your business?

Here are 7 ways to accelerate your success as an entrepreneur:

1. Limit your time with people who bring you down

Entrepreneurs quickly learn that striving to do something bigger than those around them can be messy. People often start to project their own fears onto you, undermine your vision, suck energy from you, and ultimately drag you down.

Cutting people out should be a no nonsense process, but that doesn’t mean it should be rushed. Sometimes you just need to distance yourself or you need to redefine boundaries in your relationships. If you’re around people that don’t bring anything to the relationship, belittle your dreams, or talk you out of them, then you need to limit your time with them.

 

2. Set smaller goals

The number one factor that allows entrepreneurs to waste time is not having specific goals. Lack of clarity in your business does two things: You either spend too much time focusing on the wrong areas of the operation or you make yourself feel overwhelmed by the idea of reaching such a huge goal.

In order to see success you have to be specific about what you want to accomplish. If you don’t know what those steps are, that’s completely okay. It just means you need to do more research, read more books, talk to a mentor or even look for advice in forums. Remember, we’re in the digital age where almost any information is available, we just have to find it and act on it.

“Goals are the fuel in the furnace of achievement.” – Brian Tracey

3. Live by the 80/20 rule

The Pareto principle suggests that around 80% of effects will come from only 20% of causes. In practice this may mean that 80% of the market may be owned by 20% of businesses, or 80% of sales result from 20% of clients. For you, it means 80% of your results will come from 20% of your most important activities.

To live by the principle, constantly track and evaluate your time and results in order to determine what your 20% most effective activities are. You can then delegate, automate, or eliminate the rest.

 

4. Surround yourself by like minded people

It’s very easy for entrepreneurs to slip into the habit of trying to do everything by themselves. Unfortunately, this just slows down your growth. Finding a mastermind and being around likeminded entrepreneurs can help you in countless ways. Finding a mastermind group has many benefits including, networking with potential mentors, collaborating with other business owners, cross-promoting, or learning successful habits.

 

5. Invest in a coach

All world class athletes have a coach. Without them, they never expect to compete at the highest level. So why would you expect to reach your entrepreneurial potential without a coach?

What you may not know is that most world class business leaders have personal coaches. Everyone from Google Executives to U.S Presidents like Bill Clinton have had coaches. You may need help with strategy, habits, and self-defeating thought patterns, or you might just need accountability.

If you’re just starting out, coaches can seem like a big investment, but when you find the right one, they’ll pay it off tenfold. A lot of business coaches offer free consultations, so make sure you do your research and find a coach that resonates with you personally.

“I absolutely believe that people, unless coached, never reach their maximum capabilities.” – Bob Nardelli

6. Redefine your personal boundaries

If you want to get ahead in business fast, you have to learn to redefine your personal boundaries and put yourself first.

Putting yourself first means your business goals come before everything else; that includes drinking with friends, dealing with negative influences, watching Netflix for hours on end, or telling yourself that you can’t do something.

 

7. Meditate

Meditation is beneficial for everyone, and this goes tenfold for high performers. A huge proportion of successful people swear by meditation. From NBA players like Kobe Bryant, to US Marines to hedge fund managers like Ray Dalio, and Media Moguls like Russell Simmons and Oprah Winfrey—success follows meditation. That’s because it works. Get away from any ideas that it’s a fad, or it’s just not for you.

Meditation has some incredible benefits:

  • Improved immune function
  • Improves ability to focus
  • Decreased anxiety, stress and depression
  • Increase in Positive emotions
  • Improves emotional intelligence
  • Increases compassion
  • Improves introspective acuity
  • Improve willpower

The game of entrepreneurship is a long one. However, when you play it smart, you can see massive growth in a relatively short amount of time.

If tackling all of these at once is too much for you, just start with a few then add one a month and in no time you’ll be absolutely crushing it.

Chris Corey

CMO Markethive Inc.

by Benjamin Fishel – 

The last words of Steve Jobs –
I’ve come to the pinnacle of success in business.
In the eyes of others, my life has been the symbol of success.
However, aside from work, I have little joy. Finally, my wealth is nothing more than a fact to which I am used to it.
At This moment, lying in the hospital bed and remembering all my life, I realize that all the accolades and riches of which I was so proud, have become something insignificant in the face of imminent death.
In the dark, when I look at the green lights of the equipment for artificial respiration and feel the buzz of their mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of the proximity of death that I’m in for.
Only now do I understand, once you accumulate enough money for the rest of your life, that we need to pursue other goals that are not related to wealth.
It must be something more important:
For example, stories of love, art, dreams of my childhood…
Stop pursuing wealth, it can only make a person into a twisted being, just like me.
God has formed us in a way that we can feel the love in the heart of each and every one of us, and not illusions built by fame or the money I made in my life, I can’t take them with me.
I can only take with me the memories that were strengthened by love.
This is the true wealth that will follow you, will accompany you, he will give you the strength and light to go ahead.
Love can travel thousands of miles and so life has no limits. Move it wherever you want to go. Strive to reach the goals that you want to achieve. It’s all in your heart and in your hands.
What is the most expensive bed in the world? The hospital bed.
If you have money, you can hire someone to drive your car, but you cannot hire someone to take your illness instead of loading it yourself.
Material things lost can be found. But there’s one thing that you can never find when you lose: Life!
Whatever the stage of life in which we are at the moment, in the end we are going to have to face the day when the curtain will fall.
Treasure the love for your family and  friends…

 

Steve Jobs

 

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The difference between Trying & Doing.
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Trying for any thing is equivalent to not doing. Some where I was reading an article on Trying. The author refer to some Training Saminar, in response to a question from an audience about Trying but not acheiving. The trainer asked her to Try to pull the chair. She pull the chair, the trainer intrepted and ask her “I asked to Try to pull the chair not to pull the chair”. She reply she was trying only but the chair moves. Then trainer demostrate what is difference between the pulling the Chair and Trying to pull the chair. With a mariginal additional effort the chair started moving. In Physics we are asking it inertia.

The difference in Trying and Doing is only little. In some other example it is said to fight one more minute in a battle is winning the battle. Which is applicable in all play also. The effort in this critical time is changing the result. Thats mean only a little more effort and for a little more time can change the failure to success.

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Observing and working with entrepreneurs over the years it is clear that people in this category have many characteristics in common. And, while we all love to analyze the theories and strategies that can be learned from others to make things work better in your business as an entrepreneur, we often forget that there are also character traits that we could look to develop as well. You can read all the books in the world, but theories are useless unless you learn to adopt some of these characteristics:

1. Consistent boldness

Most entrepreneurs are naturally a little ballsy, but it’s not enough just to come up with a great idea or to start a business — you have to be consistently bold enough to stand by your idea, to keep pushing forward even when it seems like you’re making a monumental waste of effort, and when everyone around you just doesn’t see a happy ending. You also need to be bold enough to realize when you are stuck on a dead end road and it’s time to do something different.

You also have to be bold in putting yourself out there. Many people avoid doing this because they don’t want to feel sleazy or like they’re hard selling people, but unless you can get over this, nobody’s going to know about you or care about you.

Finally, you have to be bold in asking for what you want. Of course it’s totally terrifying to ask someone for something that you really want, but you will be amazed by how often people actually do help if you tell them how and if you ask the right way. For instance, I needed to raise money to build a vision called Markethive, an online ecosystem of sorts for Entrepreneurs. So I gathered up a couple hundred of my closet friends and associates, showed them my presentation and I raised $400,000 in 2 weeks to build the dream.  But because I was bold enough to put myself out there and because I asked in a way in a way that appealed to them, I was able to raise the money to make it work. A good sense of humor always helps too!

2. Passion

Passion is about feeling so deeply for something (or someone), nothing or no-one could possibly get in your way from fulfilling that feeling. If you have that absolute, deep, unwavering passion for what you’re doing, nothing and no-one will stop you from taking the necessary steps to achieve your goal!

3. Risk Taker

There’s an old saying that if you haven’t failed then you’re just not trying hard enough. Risk taking is a part of business. Thankfully it’s rarely life or death but it might be pretty scary financially or emotionally. When assessing risk, you have to decide if the potential benefits outweigh the cost, and then take the necessary action no matter how uncomfortable it it may feel.

4. Leadership

An entrepreneur is a leader. The two are not mutually exclusive. The definition of an entrepreneur is someone who starts and manages a business assuming the risk. You can’t start and manage a business without being a leader.

So ask yourself, are you ready to lead?

5. Flexibility

A lot of people mix up being flexible with being flighty. I’m not saying that you should just dabble in things or totally scrap a project at the first sign of trouble. You need to be focused and unshakeable on your big goals, but in parallel with that, you have to be able to be flexible with how things unfold day to day.

Being too rigid will cause you to lose a ton of opportunities that come up along the way, because you will be too focused on following your planned steps instead of recognizing opportunities that could get you to your end goal even better. So learn to pivot, and be flexible when you need to.

6. Perspective

Having a sense of perspective is absolutely critical, because working as an entrepreneur usually feels a little crazy and because you’re going to fail hideously at least once. If you get so wrapped up in what you’re doing that you can’t take a step back, see the humor in situations, or dispassionately look at your failures to see what you can learn from them, then this probably isn’t the path for you.

7. Self Belief

The challenge when starting and growing your business is that for most people it’s the other way round and your self doubt will be tinged with moments of self belief. In order to achieve success you’re going to have to tip the scales. There is no way past it. You have to do whatever it takes to increase your self belief.

Take more risks and move out of your comfort zone more often. With each small win your confidence will rise.

8. Commitment

Sometimes you are going to be faced with compelling opportunities which will detract you from your main focus and your ultimate goal. It’s down to you as an entrepreneur to stay committed to your ultimate goal and recognize which opportunities will move you closer to your goals and which will move you further away.

Beware the seduction of easy opportunity.

9. Resilience

Finally, you’ve absolutely got to be resilient, certainly in the face of failure, but also just in terms of daily life as an entrepreneur. It can be really hard when you’re working for yourself — people don’t really get what you do every day and sometimes they might even think you’re just ‘messing about’. Resilience is what keeps you going, both when you get hit with a big failure or just the everyday crisis, so it’s essential that you learn how to bounce back.

10. Speed

I know I’m surprising absolutely no one when I say that things move fast as an entrepreneur. To be a great entrepreneur, you’ve got to be able to work fast and still keep the quality of your output high.

That’s not to say that you can’t do great things if you like to think or act more slowly — but if you are like that, then you’ll probably need to get a partner or a group that will balance you out and force you to act. Otherwise you’ll likely stagnate.

Dennis Roeder
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